Dear Louise,

Awhile ago I read someone’s interpretation of A Course in Miracles saying that sex is for procreation purposes only. Is that a common concept? If so, I don’t want to be that enlightened!

J.F., New Hampshire

Dear J.F.,

I’ve never heard of that concept with regard to A Course in Miracles! It sounds like that remark is coming from an asexual person (someone who has no desire for sex at all). Denying natural bodily functions is not being enlightened – it’s just adding another rule about how we’re supposed to live.

My advice is love who you are, forget the past and forgive everyone and yourself. Enjoy your body... enjoy your life. Stay in the present moment and choose to be happy!

Dear Louise,

I’ve always been fascinated by the thought of growing and changing my attitude and personality. In other words, I want to become a better person.

My big problem is that my sister stops me from achieving my goal. She’s always getting me into trouble and saying very hurtful things to me. On most days I’m petrified to speak to anyone in my family for fear that I’ll be shouted at or my words will unintentionally cause trouble. Every time I try to change into a better person, my sister says or does something that really hurts me and therefore I’m back to square one. My older brother is just as bad: Almost every single day he comes around the house and begins to moan and complain about his work and personal life, which always results in screaming, fighting and shouting.

Although I have a few friends, unfortunately, I don’t have any close ones around my age-group to hang out with or to visit. I’m pretty much a loner, so I have nowhere to escape to for a break.

Please, can you help me find the answer to becoming a better person without the hurtful words or actions of others getting in the way? It’s so difficult to change yourself into a better person when you’re constantly surrounded by people who beat you down and make you feel so miserable.

B.K., London

Dear B.K.,

It sounds as though everyone in your family is troubled. No matter what other people say or do, you’re the only thinker in your mind. The thoughts you are choosing to think are the ones that are creating your future. Your thoughts are a direct line to the Source of all energy. You don’t need to be a better person; you already have within you the ability to be happy in the midst of chaos. Although you might be quite a young girl, your thoughts still have power.

Instead of reacting in the usual way to your family, begin to go within and find that peaceful haven inside you. The next time someone tries to upset you, say silently to yourself, I bless (my sister, brother, or whomever) with love and know that there is a peaceful place within this person, too. We are all creating harmony in our family. We are all safe. Keep repeating this over and over. It may feel silly the first few times you say it; however, as you continue to repeat this affirmation, things will change. You have the power to create peace in your family. They have no power over you unless you continue to play their games.

I’d also suggest that every time you pass a mirror, you stop, look into your own eyes, and affirm: I live in a peaceful family who support me and want me to be the best I can be. This is what you really desire, so create it in your thoughts. I know that you can do it... begin now.

Dear Louise,

Since turning 30, I’ve been suffering from PMS. My symptoms have only gotten worse over the years. Now each month I can be affected by severe symptoms for up to 12 days. I long to become a mother, but in this condition, how can I? Can you offer any advice?

J.S., Los Angeles

Dear J.S.,

On a physical level, you need to go to a good nutritionist and have your diet checked out. Poor food choices can have devastating effects on your menstrual cycle. Don’t wait another moment. If you don’t know where to go, ask at your local health-food store. Los Angeles is full of knowledgeable nutritionists.

On a metaphysical level, this cycle has a great deal to do with creativity. How are you stifling your creative processes? What are you not allowing yourself to do? Every woman needs a creative outlet. What do you do that gives you great joy? Love yourself enough to make time in your life for this activity. Affirm: I am in the rhythm and flow of life. All is well in my world. [

Louise L. Hay is a metaphysical teacher and the best-selling author of numerous books, including “You Can Heal Your Life,” “Empowering Women” and “I Can Do It®”. If you have questions for Louise Write to: Dear Louise Column, c/o Hay House, Inc., P.O. Box 5100, Carlsbad, CA 92018-5100 (letters may be edited for length and clarity). Due to the volume of e-mails Louise receives, she can no longer respond via the Internet. Visit Louise and Hay House at: www.LouiseHay.com or www.hayhouse.com®.