In the state of love, we are magnets for love.

Marianne Williamson

Would you like more love in your life? Whether you are in a relationship or not, most of us yearn for more love, romance and intimacy. Yet often what we are giving our attention to, may be the lack of these things. If we are noticing what we don’t have, that lack will expand as we continue to energize it through our attention to lack.

Since like attracts like, those who are coming from love, attract love-based experiences while those who are coming from fear, attract more fear-based experiences. All of the positive emotions that feel so good could be listed under the heading of love and all of the uncomfortable emotions that we class as negative emotions could be listed under fear. We draw to us more of what we are giving our attention to. Even with this understanding, the ego in us often wants us to dwell on the negative aspects of our lives. We tend to think about these undesirable things and to talk to others about them as well. Undesirable experiences are merely providing contrast, so we can get clearer about what we do want to include in our lives. We can then begin giving that our attention. Once we know what we do want, we need to spend more time thinking about that, talking about it and visualizing how we want it to be. As Abraham explains, through Esther Hicks, we live in a vibrational universe. Every thought and feeling we have has a vibration that attracts matching vibrations. Eventually we draw that similar vibrational experience into our lives. As we think about what is wanted, we begin sending out a vibration that will attract to us people, places and things that are a vibrational match. It is also important to allow these things to come to us, by staying in alignment with positive energy. We must avoid contradictory beliefs and negative emotions that block our ability to receive what we are wanting.

Sometimes a man or woman has difficulty attracting a new relationship because of their thoughts about unpleasant past experiences. They may generalize that “all men are ___ or all women are ____” and because he or she believe these statements, it becomes a self-fulling prophecy. They keep attracting the same kind of relationships that were painful in the past. To attract loving relationships one must have positive thoughts about the possibility of finding a loving relationship.

Our words have power and our statements become affirmations about what we believe to be true for us. For example a person might spend 16 hours a day thinking and talking about the absence of love in their life and then do 10 minutes of affirmations about being in a loving relationship. They might wonder why the affirmations about love are not working. What is being given more attention, love or the absence of love?

Recently, I heard a young man talking about how the 90s had not been kind to him. While he is hoping that the new millennium will bring him the good things in life, his words indicate that he is constantly seeing himself as a victim of external circumstances. He keeps affirming through his conversations the very things he wants to exclude from his experiences. He unknowingly, keeps thinking the same kinds of thoughts, which will assure that more of the same will come his way. How does someone with this pattern of thought break the pattern? Switching the focus of attention to anything that causes one to feel better will break the pattern. Look for things that make you smile. (Music, natural beauty, pets, a baby’s smile, flowers, acts of kindness, whatever works for you). Reach for a thought that is uplifting, one that offers relief. As Abraham says, “What thought feels better?” When we are feeling happy, loving and appreciating life we are most connected to our natural state of being.

If someone asks you to describe who you are, like most people, you would probably tell them your name, occupation or define yourself by the role you play in the family. If you could look beneath all of the roles that you play in life, who are you? The first principle of Attitudinal Healing states: “The essence of our being is love.” In this pure state of being, we are extensions of Divine Love, Universal Energy, God or Source Energy or All That Is. Whatever term you are comfortable with. We know we are connected to that higher part of ourselves when we are feeling loving, kind, compassionate, joyful, supportive and when we have a desire to join with others. We know we have lost the awareness of this connection when we are into our negative emotions. During this time, we are operating from fear based emotions in which we feel, separate, competitive, jealous, hostile and critical. As dual personalities most of us vacillate between these aspects of ourselves. Perhaps our mission is to live on earth fully connected to our natural state of being, which is one of love. When our thoughts, actions and feelings reflect love, we become magnets that attract more loving experiences into our lives.

Donna May MA Ed, is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, Stress Management and Pain Relief Specialist and a practitioner of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), Reiki and Yuen Energetics. She utilizes spiritual principles and A Course in Miracles teachings in her counseling. She is available for classes, public presentations or private consultations. Donna can be reached at (248) 626-4859 or via email at: DonnMay27@comcast.net.