Love Will Find You
by Daina Puodziunas
 

When you deepen your relationship to your soul and connect more deeply with the soul of others, you find and follow the path of love that is uniquely yours.

Sanaya Roman

Are you trying to find or create perfect love in your life? Pure, clear, true love exists at the soul level. Love is a state of being that has to be experienced within oneself before we can experience it in the outer world. Once again, the outer mirrors the inner. It’s one of those crazy making truths about how life works on earth. You’ll have it when you don’t need it anymore. So how do we do that? How do we give ourselves what we want from others?

We have to stop looking for the perfect person to love us and stop trying to change the people we are with so that they will make us feel loved and happy. We have to access our love from within ourselves. To create the relationship you want, we need to create the essence of the love we want, rather than focus on a specific form. I use the words “self generate.”

It is said that to experience enlightenment, you cannot sit around and wait for your soul to contact you and do all the work. Although it is always transmitting waves of love to you, you have to know how to recognize and receive it. The easiest way that I have done this is to experience the immense love that my soul has for me through guided inner journeys.

Get quiet and tune into your heart. Get an image of an extremely loving presence showering you with every positive feeling you have ever wanted to feel from someone else – respect, recognition, pride, acceptance, understanding, awe, wonder and delight. Now let those feelings in. Allow any emotion that is there to be expressed. Allow yourself to be filled with the divine elixir of love right down to the cells of your body. Allow, allow, allow yourself to experience it on all levels.

Now that you have the essence of what you have wanted from someone else, ask your soul to assist you while you carry the positive feelings you received in your heart while being with others. Have your intention be to experience love without needing others to change in order for you to receive it. State what you want as an essence quality of love, such as, “I want to experience more joy, harmony and softness between us.”

I did an experiment with this on Christmas eve. It was a new beginning for my family since my father died over six months ago. Since I am now the oldest member and matriarch of my family, I wanted to create a conscious, magical, meaningful new tradition. I created a blend of old and new traditions and designed an enchanted atmosphere in my home. We connected with the ancestors of our family and broke bread together.

The most important work of all was done on a soul level before anyone arrived. Now you have to know that my family is a very diverse bunch of highly spirited, opinionated, strong individuals. The potential for conflict is high. I accessed the love my soul has for me until I could feel it radiating out of me. It felt like a form of high spiritual play. I was singing and dancing all day as I basked in it while decorating my home and feeling my intention for joy, harmony and softness between us.

In order for me to have this magical night, I had to be clear about my intentions – to create an atmosphere of magic, love and new beginnings first within myself. I also had to let go of a lot of things. I let go of getting into heated discussions so that I could prove I was right. I let go of needing others to change in any way so that I could be happy and come to peace with how each person expresses themselves, their beliefs, political affiliations, judgments etc. I had to drop expectations and my own judgments. I had to use the contrast of the past to come to some very clear decisions about what was really important.

The result was that there was laughter, heart felt exchanges and lots of fun all evening. When we choose love over lesser satisfactions and make the effort to shift within, we become magnetic and life responds. I will have no way of knowing how much of an influence I was. The important point is that I didn’t need anyone to be different in any way for me to have the best Christmas eve I can ever remember because I had learned to fill my own cup without waiting for someone else to fill it.

Daina Puodziunas - Just call me Dinah, Midlife Fairy Godmother. Midlife Fairy Godmother Enterprises provides tips, tools and treasures for self aware, fun loving midlife women who are ready to move past obstacles to second half bliss. Join the free Adventurers Club and receive a monthly newsletter, community calls and much more. She can be reached at (616) 754 9672 or visit www.MidlifeFairyGodmothers.com.