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You Receive What You Desire For
Others
by Wayne Dyer
As you review the
attributes of universal intention and simultaneously vow to be those
attributes, you begin to see the significance of what you desire for all
others. If you desire peace for others, you’ll receive it. If you want
others to feel loved, you’ll be the recipient of love. If you see only
beauty and worthiness in others, you’ll have the same retuned to you.
You’ll only give away what you have in your heart and attract what
you’re giving away. This is a matter of great concern to you. Your
impact on others, whether it be stranger, family members, co-workers or
neighbors, is evidence of the strength of your connection to the power
of intention. Think of your relationships in terms of holy or unholy.
Holy relationships
facilitate the power of intention at a high energy level for everyone
involved. Unholy relationships keep the energy at the lower, slower
levels for all concerned. You’ll know your own potential for greatness
when you start seeing the perfection in all relationships. When you
recognize others’ holiness, you’ll treat them as divine expressions of
the power of intention, wanting nothing from them. The irony is that
they become co-creators manifesting all your desires. Want nothing from
them, demand nothing from them, have no expectations for them and
they’ll return this kindness. Demand from them, insist that they please
you, judge them as inferior and see them as servants and you’ll receive
the same. It behooves you to be acutely aware of what you truly want for
others and to know whether you’re in a holy or an unholy relationship
with every person you’re involved with.
One truth that I’ve
recognized during the years of my own growth is that it’s impossible to
know my perfection if I’m unable to see and honor that same perfection
in others. The ability to see yourself as a temporary expression of
intention and to see yourself in all of humanity is a characteristic of
the holy relationship. It’s the ability to celebrate and honor in all
others, the place where we’re all one.
In an unholy relationship,
you see yourself as separate from others. It’s the feeling that others
are primarily useful to satisfy ego’s urges and that people are there to
help you get what’s missing in your life. In any kind of a relationship,
this attitude of separation and potential manipulation creates a barrier
between you and the power of intention. The signs of unholy
relationships are quite clear; People become defensive, fearful,
hostile, standoffish and don’t wish to be in your company.
As you change your thought
patterns to raise your energy vibration and reduce the demands of your
ego, you’ll begin developing a reverent or holy relationship with
others. Then everyone is perceived as complete. When you can celebrate
differences in others as interesting or enjoyable, you’re loosening your
identity with ego. The holy relationship is a way of matching up with
the universal Source of Creation and being peacefully joyful. Any
relationship or even an encounter from the holy perspective, is a coming
together with a beloved self-aspect and discovering a stimulating
connection with the power of intention.
Recently, in a
supermarket, I asked a frenzied clerk behind the seafood counter if he
knew where I could find a smoked salmon. I saw myself as connected to
him in spite of the frustration showing through his behavior. A man
standing next to me heard my request and saw the clerk’s harried
demeanor. The stranger smiled at me and went to another area of the
store, returning with a package of nova lox, which he handed me. He
delivered to me what I was seeking! A coincidence? I think not. When I
feel myself connected to others and radiate the energy of holy
relationship, people react with kindness and go out of their way to
assist me with my intentions.
In another example of
this, I was transferred from one airline to another because of a
mechanical problem that resulted in a cancellation. At my original
airline, which is in my hometown, the employees know me and go out of
their way to assist me. I’ve practiced holy relationships with everyone
at the counter, at baggage check-in, on the plane and so on. On this
particular day, I was sent to the other end of the airport with seven
boxes of books and tapes that had to be checked as baggage. As my
assistant, Maya and I trudged up to the counter of the other airline,
pushing a cart with luggage and seven heavy boxes, the passenger agent
announced that her airline did not permit more than two pieces of
luggage to be checked in and that I would have to leave three of the
boxes behind. I could check in two for me and two for Maya. Those are
the rules.
Here’s where a holy
relationship with a stranger has more potential for assisting you with
your intentions than an unholy relationship. Rather than countering the
agent with an intention that she was a clerk whose job it was to serve
my needs, I chose to join her where we both are one. I let her know that
I wasn’t even mildly upset over this rule and I imagined how she must
feel, having to process a large number of people who weren’t scheduled
on this flight. I felt connected and expressed my own feelings of
frustration at having this challenge of what to do with these three
extra boxes, which my originally scheduled airline had agreed to
transport. I invited her to attend a lecture I was giving in town the
next month, as my guest. Our entire conversation and the entire
interaction was guided by my private intent that this remain a holy
relationship.
The energy of this
interaction shifted from weak to strong. We bonded, recognized our self
in the other and she checked in all my boxes with a cheerful smile. I’ve
never forgotten what she said to me as she handed me our boarding
passes. “When you wheeled up that cart with all those boxes, I was
determined that you weren’t going to get them on that plane and after a
few moments of being with you, I would’ve carried them out and put them
on the plane myself if I had to. It’s a pleasure to know you. Thank you
for your business and I hope you’ll consider our airline in the future.”
These are two simple
examples of what happens when you consciously shift from ego-dominated
unholy relationship, to experiencing your connectedness through the
power of intention. I urge you to establish a holy relationship with
your Source, the world community, your neighbors, acquaintances, family,
the animal kingdom, our planet and yourself. Just as in my examples of
the man in the store delivering me the smoked salmon I was looking for
and the airline agent assisting me in realizing my intent, you’ll enjoy
the power of intention through holy relationships. It’s all about
relationship.
*Excerpted from The
Power of Intention:
Learning to Co-create Your World Your Way
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