Dear Louise,

My life has been very complicated. I just feel that I’m nowhere right now. I feel that I don’t belong anywhere in this world. Trying so hard to establish myself but being so far away from my family, I miss them every second of my life. I can’t stop crying as I’m writing this. How can I succeed in what I’m undertaking? How can I achieve peace of mind? I feel blindfolded. Can you please advise me?

M.R., India

Dear M.R.,

You’re not alone; everyone feels this way from time to time. Remember, you belong to you and life loves you. You’re never alone. Be kind and gentle toward yourself. The whole world is your family if you allow it to be. Tears are the river of life and are given to you to use when you feel the need for them.

I think you’ve forgotten how to breathe deeply. Now is the time for you to forget about the world and come back to nourishing yourself. Begin and end each day by sitting quietly and breathing deeply. Deep at the center of your being is an infinite well of peace. Allow yourself to go there. Connect with your inner wisdom. Groove in the vastness of it all! Know that life will float good things toward you.

Affirm: I am loved by life. My success is unfolding in perfect divine right order. All is well and I am safe.

Dear Louise,

Do you have any affirmations for lower back pain? I recently lost my job and it’s painful for me to be looking for a new one while my lower back is bothering me. Any help would be appreciated.

G.A., Canada

Dear G.A.,

Lower back pain comes when we feel we’re not being supported financially by life. Worry about money will do it every time. It’s an expression of your lack of trust in life. Do not listen to people who tell you that it’s “hard” to get a job. Don’t listen to economic news. This has nothing to do with you. You’re under the law of your own consciousness and only you make the rules for you. So stop your negative chatter.

Affirm: I release my last job and everyone connected with it, with love. I know that the perfect job is looking for me. We are now being brought together on the checkerboard of life. I am totally open and receptive to a wonderful new position—one that uses all my talents and abilities and allows me to express creatively in ways that are fulfilling to me. I work with and for people whom I love and who love and respect me, in a wonderful location and earning good money.

Dear Louise,

I’ve been reading your books and listening to your “Morning and Evening Meditations” CD frequently and I love it. I’m starting to feel happier and also not beat myself up so much mentally, but to instead affirm that “I approve of myself.”

There’s one area in my life, however, that I can’t seem to get happy with: I have two small children—one who is 4 and one who’s 16-months-old. Almost daily, I find myself in the middle of a tantrum of my own while trying to deal with them and the guilt afterward is awful. I’m not hitting them, but I just become so frustrated and impatient and loud; I just feel completely out of control. I’m shocked at the rage that I feel toward my kids. Can you suggest anything I could try to help me stay calm in the moment with them rather than flying off the handle?

K.C., Ohio

Dear K.C.,

First of all, you need to stop beating yourself up for having your feelings. They are what they are and anger is an important emotion. When we’re growing up, we’re taught not to express our anger. As anger accumulates over the years, it can become overwhelming when we begin to release it. But release it we must; otherwise, it accumulates in the body and often attacks vulnerable organs like the kidneys. The kidneys in turn impact our body’s ability to detoxify. This can lead to debilitating health problems.

Of course you’re a fabulous, caring mother and the kids know how to “push your buttons.” It’s part of the lovely world of parenting. One of things you can do when they start to frustrate you is to have everyone pick a pillow (you, too!) and start hitting it. Make a game out of it and you’ll be amazed how refreshing this will be for you. You’ll be releasing that pent-up anger and they’ll just be having fun.

Affirm every night before you go to bed: I have high regard and respect for myself. I support and love myself unconditionally and as a result, it is safe to express all that I am!

All truly is well.

Louise L. Hay is a metaphysical teacher and the best-selling author of numerous books, including “You Can Heal Your Life”, “Empowering Women” and “I Can Do It®”. If you have questions for Louise Write to: Dear Louise Column, c/o Hay House, Inc., P.O. Box 5100, Carlsbad, CA 92018-5100 (letters may be edited for length and clarity). Due to the volume of e-mails Louise receives, she can no longer respond via the Internet. Visit Louise and Hay House at: www.LouiseHay.com or www.hayhouse.com®.