Esther talked to a friend who’s a magnificent counselor, (using many of the techniques that Abraham has offered over the years with her clients) and she says, “I tell my clients, ‘find the eye of your hurricane and stay there.’” And Esther said, "I sort of like that. When you think about all the things that are going on in the world that could be upsetting to you, but there is this calm here where I am. In other words, I don't have to change the world; the world doesn't have to change for me." Do you know that is truly what the meaning of unconditional love is?

Most people, when they see conditions that make them feel bad – they just feel bad. And when they see something that makes them feel good – they just feel good. And then they conclude," We've got to control the conditions." And so, they make laws and they get all kinds of patrollers and they get all kinds of people that then try to enforce the laws because they believe that if they could just control these conditions, then they would never have to look at anything that upsets them again. But then you discover that the tsunami will come and that there aren't laws or rules or armies that can stop that. Or the hurricane will come or the earthquake will come... In other words, there's always going to be something that is going to challenge your idea that you can control circumstances.

You cannot control circumstances. You never intended to control circumstances. You intended to discover unconditional love. You intended to discover a way to feel good, no matter what, because you have the facility; you have the power; you have the ability to focus. You have the ability to choose where you focus, therefore, you have the ability to offer vibration deliberately, therefore, you have the ability to choose the way you feel. But it takes some practice.

As you practice, everyday, something will happen and you will feel it viscerally in your body. Somebody says something or does something or you see something on TV and then you've got to stop, right then, and you have to say, “Nothing is more important than that I feel good, and, right now, I'm going to do my best to find the best feeling thought that I can find.”

Now, sometimes, you can change the subject. It's easy to change the subject. Or, you could meditate; just quiet your mind; put your brain on pause; that makes you feel better immediately, too. But if there are circumstances that are hammering you, things that come up often: somebody in your experience that is there everyday or often, if there's something happening in your experience that you consistently feel bad about, then you've got some work to do on this Emotional Scale.

Once you show yourself that a person or that circumstance does not have to change for you to move from fearful up to hopeful or from despair up to anger to frustration... once you show yourself that nothing has to change, in terms of the action journey, for you to have real movement in the emotional journey, once you show yourself that, then watch what happens to your action journey. Once you shift; once you beat that drum; once it settles in; once you find the groove of that, once you are there, once you've shifted that belief, once you've modified that vibration (far less effort than you think), everything will begin to shift in your experience

So, contrast causes you to offer rockets of desire. The desire is nowhere near where you're vibrating So, you've given birth to an idea of something you want that you are or a vibrational match to it. So, you do your best to find thoughts that feel closer and closer and closer to it. And when you begin to feel the elation that you will feel when that manifests, even before it manifests, now, it must manifest and it must manifest fast.

That's why we asked you that all-important question as we began. Do those unfulfilled desires please you? And some of you lie and say yes, some of you say no. But we want you to work on getting to the place where you say, “Yes, I love this unfulfilled desire! I love knowing that there's something in the offing for me. I love knowing that it's out there percolating and I love doing my work, which is, gradually, gently, consistently bringing myself into vibrational alignment with it."

When it feels like the next logical step – then it comes right in. So your work, as you stand in the absence of something wanted, is to pretend it, to imagine it, to become so familiar with the essence of what it would feel like when it comes, that even though it hasn't come, you still feel good. (You get this?) Even though my lover hasn't come yet, I'm excited about the idea of my lover coming. I'm anticipating. I feel excited about it. But if I'm depressed, if I'm discouraged, if “all the good ones are taken,” then, it's not the next logical step.

We think you heard that. Our work here is done.

Abraham – “a group of non-physical beings” – speak and teach through the physical apparatus of Esther Hicks. Esther and her mate, Jerry, present Abraham’s teachings worldwide, through seminars, books and video and audio recordings. (830) 755-2299, P.O. Box 690070, San Antonio, TX 78269, www.abraham-hicks.com