FROM
THE HEART
That's So Fake
by Alan Cohen
While traveling in the South
Pacific, I had the rare opportunity to see the Magic Circus of Samoa. By
American standards, many of the acts were, well, humorous. Like the
Lilliputian woman who was hoisted to the ceiling by a rope attached only
to her hair and then flung around the big top like Peter Pan on
steroids. Words cannot capture the expression on her face, stretched
back as if she had more facelifts than an aging actress. She walked away
from her act stiff as if she had just been stretched on a medieval rack.
I elbowed Dee and whispered, “I’d hate to be her chiropractor.”
The final act of the
evening was a guillotine-toting magician. He chose a reluctant
“volunteer” from the audience and ceremoniously demonstrated the
sharpness of the blade by swiftly chopping a cucumber. Then he locked
the volunteer in the guillotine and milked the tension with a long
stream of jokes, asking the fellow if he had any last words.
While most of the audience
laughed, behind me sat the volunteer’s wife and four-year-old son. Not
understanding that the guillotine act was a magic trick, the boy went
hysterical. He believed his father was going to be beheaded. His mom sat
at his side and held him, repeatedly telling him, “It’s OK, honey. Daddy
will be alright. Don’t worry.” While her words were well-intended and
may have helped a bit, the child remained generally terrified. Finally
the blade fell, miraculously passing the dad’s head without a scratch
and the man was freed. Soon the child stopped whimpering and the ordeal
was over.
I wonder if that boy’s
terror is not so different from any fear that any of us face. A Course
in Miracles tells us that every experience issues from either love or
fear and we need but understand that the source of love is real and the
source of fear is illusion. If we can remember truth in the face of
illusion, our fear dissipates and we return to the comforting arms of
reality. At every moment the voice of God is seeking to remind us what
is true; our role is to hear that voice and trust it.
So here we sit in the
circus of life, when something scary shows up and goes “booga! booga!”
right in our face. Someone we love might leave or we receive a bill
bigger than we think we can pay or we pick up a newspaper and read of
wars and rising gas prices and diseases we’ve never heard of. We get
frightened and go hysterical (at least inside). Is this really any
different than the child seeing his father in a stage guillotine?
Meanwhile a motherly voice
whispers in our ear, “It’s OK. Don’t worry. It will be alright.” The
voice is soft, yet knowing. We want to believe it, but the illusion
before us is raging so blatantly that it grabs our full attention. The
orchestra’s timpani have momentarily drowned out the flutes. So we ride
out the experience and somehow emerge unscathed. Only then do we realize
that the appearance of evil was a trick of the mind and ultimately the
voice of love was the one worth heeding. Welcome to the Magic Circus of
Experience.
Growing up, I used to
watch old science fiction movies with primitive special effects. There
would always come a point in the Flash Gordon episode when I could see
the string holding up the model space ship that was supposed to be
hurtling through space. Then my buddy and I would elbow each other and
laugh, “That’s so fake!”
I wonder if those tacky
movies were a training ground to face and deal with tacky experiences in
life. Eventually we can look at just about any frightening experience
and recognize that if we had remained calm and clear in the face of the
monsters at our heels, we could have dealt with them swiftly and gotten
on with the joy of living. But when we’re in the midst of scary
illusions, that’s not so easy, for they seem real and bigger than us.
But they are not. If you consider all the things that once frightened
you and what you learned after you passed through them, you will see
that you are indeed greater than anything you fear.
In the film version of
Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban, the grand wizard gathers the
young wizards in training and pulls out the huge “buggert box” where all
of the children’s secret fears reside. One by one he releases the
buggerts and instructs each child to point his or her wand at it, shout,
“Ridiculous!” and laugh. As each child does, the buggerts evaporate.
They could not long stand in the face of the insurmountable combination
of truth and happiness.
All of us carry a
terrified child within us and right next to it sits a comforting mother
reminding us that it’s just a trick of the mind. Then the game becomes
less about running out of the theatre and more about laughing our
buggerts to oblivion.

Alan Cohen is the author of many popular
inspirational books, including the best-selling The Dragon Doesn’t Live
Here Anymore and Mr. Everit’s Secret: What I Learned from the World’s
Richest Man. Alan will be offering a six-month personal mentorship
program beginning January 1. For information on this program or to
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