Radical Forgiveness Reaps Radical Blessings

What if all the people who came into your life took a number, stood in line and waited to enter your life and mirror back to you what you felt or believed about yourself?

What if it was all a “set up,” to bring you into so much discomfort or pain that you’d finally seek the only place where true enlightenment lives, inside.
What if your divorce was the only path for you to get to the place called you?

What if never being married is a blessing and not deprivation “for you?”

What if your marriage is the perfect path for you to rise up into your unlimited self?

What if you were programmed to grow through all the growing experiences so that you’d be guaranteed to awaken fully this time?

Something deeper is going on than the reality that you see. We are all one. We draw people into our lives and we do the dance called “relationship.” The way they dance may not be the way we were taught to dance, so we get the opportunity to learn some new steps or to constantly judge them for not dancing like we dance.

Colin Tipping, author of Radical Forgiveness says, “Things are not always what they seem. What appears to be cruel and nasty behavior on somebody's part might be exactly what we need and have indeed called forth. Situations that appear to be the worst that could possibly befall us, may hold the key to our healing something deep within us that keeps us from being happy and prevents our growth. The people who seem to us to be the most troublesome and the least likeable could therefore, be our greatest teachers.”

People come into our lives to assist us in the dance of loving ourselves and trusting inexplicably in the Higher Power. Since they came into a play we wrote, there is no one to actually forgive. It’s so wonderful to see how absolutely precise the law of attraction really is. When we stop blaming and making “them” wrong, life begins to flow bringing to us many happy, peaceful and satisfying experiences.

You can’t run or hide. Avoid one relationship or run from another and the same folks recycle with different faces, skin tones and hair color. It’s a setup. Leave one job and they are waiting for you on the next job.

I had some serious forgiveness work to do while I was in Seminary. Spirit was constantly showing me facets about myself that I really didn’t want to see.

One faculty person really pushed a lot of my buttons. I am going to call her Elizabeth for the sake of this story. She realized it and she apologized to me and really reached out to me genuinely. I didn’t reach back. I didn’t want to reach back. I wanted her to stay away from me. I wanted to be right. I wanted her to be wrong and I constantly solicited other folks to agree with me.

One evening a classmate came to my cottage and she said, “I want to tell you a story. There was a powerful, rich woman who had everything materially and a husband who adored her. When she was growing up she wanted the attention her sister got. She often appeared pushy, aggressive and inconsiderate. She felt empty inside and always felt she wasn’t enough and would never be enough. One day she wrote a letter to a famous Guru who was coming to the US. She felt she had reached a very high level in her spirituality. She wanted to study with him and he consented to her request.

“She had her first session with him and the conversation was about where she’d serve in the ashram. He told her that she would serve in the kitchen making cookies writing the word E G O on them. She was initially crushed. She felt she was pretty evolved and with her gold, diamonds and silk blouse, she went to the kitchen and made over 1,000 cookies a day for seven days, and her life radically changed. That person was Elizabeth. Believe me, she is better than what she was and your call is to have compassion for her.” Tears ran down her cheek.

“Don’t you see Shaheerah... she is still vying for attention. In her desperate need for attention, yes, she tramples others because she is so afraid that she won’t have what she wants or needs, not realizing she already has all of it.”

My understanding opened so wide and my heart was flooded with love and compassion. I went to her the next day and asked her to forgive me for the way I had been acting out of some of my old, unhealed stuff. I was vying for attention also. My negative attitude was a way I was trying to get attention. Elizabeth was mirroring a part of me that needed to be healed. When I really forgave her, I received an unexpected check and many speaking engagements opened up for me.

Relationships and community are one of the main ways that God has given us for transformation. As we are in relationship, we are brought face to face with our ego-self and called to a higher way of being and living.

Forgiveness is radical because it is revolutionary. Revolutionary means “world-shattering.” Forgiveness shatters the world of illness. A Course In Miracles says that illness is a lack of love. Forgiveness opens us up to all of the possibilities that are already in our lives. Often we aren’t able to see opportunities and blessings because unforgiveness blinds us to our abundance.

In the Lord’s Prayer there’s a line that says, “Forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.” As we forgive, our debts are forgiven. This all happens spiritually first and then it shows up in our material lives.

We get into debt because somewhere inside of us is the program that says, we don’t have enough. Even when you have the cash, you pull out the plastic because the voice says “keep your cash” like you aren’t going to get any more. The banks and credit card holders see you in lack also. They know that there are people who are impulsive buyers and will run up their charges trying to fill a void that can only be filled by Spirit.

Forgiveness of yourself and all others aligns you back into the original plan that the Creator had for you before the foundations of this world. In the free power of forgiveness you free the Light of God to shine into your mind, heart and body. You become a radiating light being on the planet. Your organs are saturated in light. Your relationships are flooded with light. Almost magically the Creator routes to you whatsoever you need and many things that you desire.

I know that forgiveness is not easy for a lot of people. All you have to do though is be willing to forgive.

Forgiveness is the key to the self-imprisoned life of lack, fear and restriction! Get excited about forgiving. We are starting a forgiveness campaign at TLC because I know it’s the key to us being all that God has in mind for us to be. It’s also the key to harmony amongst our members and community. Radical forgiveness brings radical blessings. For more information on radical forgiveness log on to: www.radicalforgiveness.com or join us for our Wednesday evening study group.